Our fundamental human needs include both the desire for closeness and belonging and the need for independance and personal growth (see Fritz Riemann, 1971). We all navigate this tension – and it is within this space that relationships develop.
Sometimes, this balance becomes unsettled.
When can couples counselling be a good choice?
For example if you:
- have different expectations of your relationship, family life or future,
- are navigating a challenging life transition,
- are trying to rebuild trust after an affair, betrayal or emotional injury,
- would like to communicate more openly and appreciatively – even when you see things differently.
My approach
I work from a Gestalt therapeutic, systemic and ressource-oriented perspective and draw on methods including:
- the Inner Team and the integration of different parts of the personality,
- systemic constellations to explore biographical and family relationship experiences,
- evidence-based psychological models to better understand perception and recurring patterns of relationship and communication.
Your benefits
Couples therapy can help you
- better understand your relationship and conflict patterns,
- listen to one another with greater openness,
- express feelings and needs more clearly,
- acknowledge differences without losing connection,
- interrupt recurring and unhelpful reactions,
- rebuild trust and emotional closeness,
- create a relationship that feels more resilient, alive and fulfilling.
The process
A couples session lasts 90 minutes. The number and frequency of sessions depend on your individual concerns and on how the process develops.
At the beginning of our work together, I first focus on each partner´s inner world. What happens between two people is often rooted in personal experiences, needs, protective strategies and inner conflicts. To better understand these, we usually begin with individual sessions of 60-minute each.
Building on this foundation, we then turn our attention to the relationship and its dynamics. As the process develops, couples and individual sessions may alternate according to your needs.
Sessions are available in person in Berlin or online by mutual agreement.
